Friday, July 1, 2016

Parent Alienation Syndrome P.A.S.


I am going through Parent Alienation from my children and it is a living hell.
I have not spoken out publicly until now to protect my children from further pain since my separation and divorce from their father. I do not see that that has been helpful though so am now trying to speak out to hopefully help the situation. There are no concrete solutions but I know that I have to do something or can very possibly lose them forever. I make no claims of being a perfect mother but I do love them all unconditionally and strongly from everything that is good in me. Parent Alienation Syndrome has no age limit and is also seen in adolescent and adult children. I have survived the lowest of lows through the grace of God, a good therapist and a few awesome friends. I do not blame my children in any way and do not want some kind of vengeance to their father. I hope to change some of the dysfunctions within the generations of our families. Please read the P.A.S. link to get an understanding of what I and many people are going through. As the target alienated parent it hard for me to fully understand or deal with. My children have just about cut me out of their lives for over two years now. Holidays have become painful and depressing. Please do not judge my children. My Ex-husband and I are the reason they are going through the pain and turmoil they live daily. For my children, I am sorry if this hurts you but I do not know what else to do to let you know that I do love you and always want and appreciate the grace of you in my life.

For a better understanding of (P.A.S.)Parent Alienation Syndrome please visit this link: http://www.socialworktoday.com/archive/102708p26.shtml

Below is a self-portrait I painted that representing the deep emptiness I feel every day. My paintings are normally filled with color and life. P.A.S. takes the color out of the best parts of my life.

P.A.S. by Dana Domas Diaz de Leon

2 comments:

  1. In America many adults refuse to take responsibility for their actions. They are always the victim. Someone else is to blame for the problems they have created in their life. This is another perfect example of this type of thinking. As I read the description of Parental Alienation Syndrome it occurs to me that P.A.S. is really C.R.A.P. (Children Reacting Appropriately Perfect).

    Dr. Phil

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  2. Phil Penn who sees himself as a Dr. Phil - It was very difficult for me to post this when I did. I prayed that it would do good rather than more harm for my family and other families struggling through the same disorders or dysfunctions. For me it has been good. I am very thankful for many kind hearted people in my life now. The helpful, prayerful support I have received on Facebook and elsewhere has made me realise by being silent the situation was getting worse and I was loosing my children more each day. Your comment is the first cruel comment I have received. You are an out of control hate filled person and your comments clearly show that. You remind me of someone I once loved and do not even know anymore. I'll pray for you.

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